Today my college said this words and make me realize the point from his words.
You will move on until you found a new one.
When you had a bad things happened in your love life, make you can’t accepting reality that your close one just gone and now you are alone.
Regarding from the article who taken from MSU’s Jed Magen, associate professor of psychiatry, wrote this piece for The Conversation, an independent collaboration between editors and academics that provides informed news analysis and commentary to the general public, has been said that loneliness is bad for your health.
Lonely people are stressed much of the time. Another hormone named oxytocin seems to play a role in social isolation. In popular media, oxytocin is often referred to as the “love hormone.” This is an overstatement, but oxytocin is involved in relationships and pair bonding. For example, after birth, high oxytocin levels are associated with better mother-infant bonding.
Oxytocin also seems to be linked to reduced stress. For instance, it’s associated with decreases in levels of norepinephrine, the “fight or flight” hormone, as well as decreases in blood pressure and heart rate, much the opposite of chronic cortisol. Oxytocin also seems to decrease activity in the amygdala, a part of the brain that activates whenever there’s a perceived threat.
From that point before I wrote about my thought about moving forward and have a new dream for my future, I am kind of loneliness. Sad. Miserable. Hate. Always blame of myself. Feel guilty. Useless. and another negative feeling around inside my head. Yeah I know that being a single mom is not easy for me, all I am thinking just negative and negative and negative feeling inside on me. Tired and then got sick easily. But until two week back end before I started this blog I realize that I am not alone and everyone loving me.
I still have a friends. A lot of friends. A thousands of friends. They always supporting me even I was doing a bad things in my life, once. They always cheering me when I am down and kind of have difficulty in hard time. And yesterday, my friend also remind me that I am not alone and I already have my new man.
Yes! I already have my new man. He is my precious one! My son!
When I was still a single and before married, I wondered what is a true love shape is. Until I got him and realize that a true love is everywhere! They are everywhere and already in front of your eyes. Love is not coming only from your lover, love coming around your life and they are visible too.
My new man maybe can’t be equated same as my ex husband, but thanks because of my son now I kind of forget being lonely and my life full of love now. Maybe for a while I am not ready to have a new one, because I still worry about my self not enough for another man. But, you know because of my son I feel complete.
Teach self-denial and make its practice pleasure and you can create for the world a destiny more sublime that ever issued from the brain of the wildest dreamer – Sir Walter Scott.
I kind of denial of the true life is, where I need a new man, new love life and somebody will be your friend until you old and die, but now I pretend that I don’t need one. Regarding to this matter be honest I am so scared to death! Seems that quote who been taken from forbes created by Sir Walter Scott remind me that is ok being denial for this situations, you are not doing something wrong.
Just because you don’t need a real man for now is doesn’t means that you losing your hope of love. Maybe Allah now just give a good trial for your life in the future. Don’t be scared again, Allah always being kind because he just give you a time to have a time more closely to your son. He need you now rather than your new lovelife.
Now you can spends your time to hang out with him for more. Is about a time. Time you will get recovered and time you move on with the new one. Just remind to yourself that, don’t loosing your hope.
Maybe before my ex husband gone and have a new lovelife with his mistress while I got pregnant of Oru, I had pray that he comeback when Oru born and we be a family again. Yes for the record he been back, but he back because he need my money and I am being fooled again by him and another broken heart coming into my life once again. Hurts. But life must go on. I deserve to have happy, Oru too. So what should I do? Just keep moving forward and doing something big for myself and people who love me. Oru will have study in Harvard Business School when he grow up, so I should working more hard to earn money for him, no need to think about my ex husband (we don’t need him!) or new man (for now).
Things may come to those who wait, but only the things left by those who hustle – Abraham Lincoln.
Una&Oru 