Single Mom Traveling with Baby : Cirebon

On New Year 2018 me, Oru and my Mom had traveled to Cirebon. Nope, is not because a New Year Eve and we just want to celebrate start a big day on first year date, but because we want to see my Dad who opening new restaurant in Cirebon.

Cirebon (formerly referred to as Cheribon in English) is a port city on the north coast of the Indonesian island of Java. It is located in the province of West Java near the provincial border with Central Java, approximately 297 km east of Jakarta, at 6°43′S 108°34′E. The administrative area of Cirebon is very small in extent, however, its dense suburbs sprawl into the surrounding regency; the official metropolitan area encompasses this regency as well as the city, and covers an area of 1,021.88 km², with a 2010 Census population of 2,366,340 (Wikipedia).

We traveled to Cirebon easily going by train, just booking via Traveloka or Tiket.com (Indonesia Travel Commerce) and you can set the date when you go to Cirebon.

For Hotel, I am note use Agoda or Tripadvisor, because My Dad already knew Cirebon really well, he got new dorm with cheap and best services. The dorm actually not name but you can find easily because syariah dorm located on Remaja Street (Gang Remaja) and nearby the famous Nasi Jamblang Ibu Nur (My God…! Just start to remember about Ibu Nur my mouth start to drool. Yummy!).

Ahaha…nothing help ya. But this is the dorm map:

Two Days Traveling in Cirebon

My traveled schedule to Cirebon actually not well prepared, were we just focus on My Dad New Restaurant Touring but not for sightseeing. But it was fun. I wanna go to Cirebon again and meet my lovely friend and her handsome baby, Arinces.

Tips for you who have travel with kids. Please bring jar foods to make your babies easy to eat and make you not worries the taste they don’t like or not, easy sist they really love it and eat a lot of your jar foods.

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Day 1

Sunyaragi Cave

The best things you must visit while in Cirebon guess this caves. Because the design super spectacular and also a lot of mystique things just happened in here. To go to Sunyarangi Cave actually is easy if you have Go-jek or Grab application, so you can order private motorcycle or car and they love to drive you to this place.

But, if you go there, please make sure that you bring an umbrella or wearing your hat, because the weather on this area super hot.

Btw, if you go here with your babies, please make sure that you not bring a stroller and also wearing your comfortable shoes.

Batik Trusmi

Is shopping place. You can find anything you want in Batik Trusmi. Start from Batik until a souvenir to bring back home for the family. Like one stop solution place in Cirebon, so you can found anything without worry with your pocket, because they sell from cheap to expensive on.

If you feeling hungry in here they have Trusmi Cafe. With a special interior design made by Batik, this cafe allow you to spends a day with delicious food and ambient. Match with your journey day with delicious foods.

This is a view for Batik Trusmi Cafe, recommended but guess if you plan to eat here ask the waiters to make your foods hot, because I don’t like warm soup.

Batik Trusmi located at: Jalan Raya Trusmi Kulon No. 148, Weru Lor, Weru. Phone Number: 0815-6469-0003.

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Day 2

Lynn’s Coffee

One of coolest cafe in Cirebon, Lynne’s Coffee is loveable place to have a great time with your family and friends for chat and eat delicious pizza (really, a pizza here super super delicious and also affordable).

Look at on Oru face…

He is so happy when visiting this restaurant and also eat a lot of delicious pizza here, #LOL.

Address: Jalan Tentara Pelajar No.58, Kejaksan, Pekiringan, Kesambi, Kota Cirebon, Jawa Barat 45118. Hours: Closes soon: 11PM ⋅ Opens 11AM Thu. Phone: 0812-2388-8998

Nana Riverside, Cirebon

 Really homy restaurant and one of the best restaurant in Cirebon (I guess). Made by my father as a restaurant management restaurant, Nana Riverside becoming the most recommended place to eat in Cirebon by Tripadvisor.

When I visiting this cafe and restaurant, amaze. Because I really love vintage architecture and think that this place have amazing interior with old Dutch touch.

Beside the architecture, interior inside this place also great so you can have great selfie with your friends and family like Royal Family.

By the way, the foods in this restaurant totally affordable. I am totally eat a lot here, because so delicious and also not so expensive than the price in Jakarta. And you don’t have to worry about the menu because they have world menu list you can order easily. Oooh I am in heaven.

My favorite one is the menu from their sister restaurant Nana Suki, Japanese Foods.

Address: Jl. Kalibaru Utara, Kejaksan, Kota Cirebon, Jawa Barat 45123. Hours: Closed ⋅ Opens 11AM. Phone: (0231) 202700.

Keraton Kasepuhan

The Kraton Kasepuhan is the oldest Kraton (sultan’s palace) in the Indonesian city of Cirebon. It is the residence of the Sultan of Kasepuhan. It was built in 1447 and its architecture and interior are a blend of Sundanese, Javanese, Islamic, Chinese and Dutch styles.

While the sultan still lives in the palace, several main sections are open to the public. Inside is a pavilion with white-washed walls dotted with blue-and-white Delft tiles, a marble floor and ceiling hung with French chandeliers. The legacy of Majapahit is preserved in its small pendopo on soft carved brick bases. The carvings on the pendopo columns are 1940s copy of the ancient originals. An innovation is the use of brackets branching out from the columns.

The main building features unusually tall pyramidal column bases. The ornament on the double braces of this building’s pendopo tumpang sari ceiling are picked out by gilt. Another unusual feature in the eclectic complex is plaster and masonry columns feature a decoration that resembles reeding. Like other old sites around Cirebon, ceramics in walls are common here, although their use in the Kraton is more restrained.

The palace also has a somewhat neglected small museum with a restricted display of wayang, kris, cannon, furniture, Portuguese armour, and ancient royal clothes. In a separate nearby building the very elaborate Kereta Singabarong, a 17th-century gilded coach, may be seen along with a modern duplicate carriage used on official occasions.

Address: Jalan Kasepuhan No.43, Kesepuhan, Lemahwungkuk, Kesepuhan, Lemahwungkuk, Kota Cirebon, Jawa Barat 45114. Hours: Closed ⋅ Opens 8AM Thu. Province: West Java. Phone: (0231) 225511.

 

Image taken from my phone and also my instagram page @unamaruna

 

 

Me and Ear Grommet

I am sorry for my late update about my life lately. Due to my medical reasons I don’t have any mood to update my blog and tell you about my stories. But now because I have so much time during my pray on Ramadan month, I make a time to write this story.

Three weeks a go I just finished my operation in RSPI (Rumah Sakit Pondok Indah), Jakarta to fixed my hearing. As you know that two months ago I started can’t hear clearly, because my adenoid just get suck! But luckily that Doctor Zainal Adhim from RSPI help me to fix the problems.

To help me can hear clearly, he observe my sicks. He found that my adenoid size not in normal size, a lot of fluid from my ears can’t go out like ordinary people have. This fluid make my ears inundated and the last examination my ears lost her hearing ability minus two hundred decibel. Is totally sucks you know. I am sorry to said that word, but trust me you can’t think easily when your tonsils get hurt. Because your throat is a channel for everything in your body, it will make a huge disaster when you take an easily. Like my case, my adenoid swollen since university student eight years ago make this year my sick getting worse and they make a disaster in my body. The sign, my ears can’t barely hear. Then another reason I get operation is because I had accident seven years ago whose make my nostrils narrowed.

After a short operation (only one and half hour and thirty minutes recovery) the doctor put out liquid from my ears. Then, to make I can hear again he put grommet in my ears canal and clean up nostrils channel to make me easy breath.

Grommet

Grommets, also called tympanostomy or ventilation tubes, are tiny plastic tubes which are inserted into a small slit in ears drum in a short operation.

Grommets maintain normal middle ear pressure by allowing air into the space on the other side of the ear drum, from the outside. This reduces the risk of fluid building up in that space. If an ear infection does occur, the resultant pus flows out through the grommet, limiting the pain. If you develops an ear infection with grommets in place, your doctor can use topical treatments (such as prescribed ear drops which are put directly into the ear) rather then oral antibiotics. Studies have shown that topical treatments are more effective than oral antibiotics in treating discharging ears.

Grommets are a temporary measure and will ‘buy time’ until hopefully your Eustachian tubes grow to a sufficient size to work naturally. The Eustachian tubes connect the space behind the eardrum (middle ear) of each ear to the back of the nose.

Most grommets usually stay in place for about 6 to 18 months and come out by themselves.

Alhamdulillah…after I get my operation my body getting better and strong than before.

A weeks after my short operation, me and Oru go to Banjarmasin to enjoying the weekends. For my latest traveling tips, will share my day with Oru broad the boat to had shopping at floating market. #Awesome!

Image taken from pexels.com and a shots from my Instagram page @unamaruna.

Tips for Single Mom : Basic Problem Solving

We all have to make decisions. Because you face problems every day that need solving. The problems may vary. Maybe you need to pass the test to be a single, or decide where to live, or figure out how to improve your life balance for your babies.

Whether the issue is big or small, as a single mom you need to set goals for ourselves, face challenges, and strive to overcome them. There’s a fundamental approach to solving these real-life problems, especially where you are a single mom, one that can consistently lead you to effective and satisfying solutions. And chances are, no one has ever bothered to show you how.

On this blog, I want to write about to show everyone a simple way to deal with the problems you have to face in everyday lives. But I wasn’t just trying to communicate a skill set. Because, being a problem solver isn’t just an ability; it’s a whole mind-set, one that drives people to bring out the best in themselves and to shape the world in a positive way.

Rather than accepting the status quo that you are single mom, true champion is mom who can be a problem solvers are constantly trying to proactively shape their environment. Imagine how different your world would be if you as a leaders and also operation team lacked on attitude? Who will taking care of your babies if you not the doers?

I hope my blog will help you inspire both children and adults to develop this proactive mindset by first tackling the problems in your own lives. Once you learn this simple way to solve the personal challenges you face everyday, you just might see that your bigger dreams and accomplishments are also within your reach.

Problem Solving Design Plan

From Ken Watanabe book about 101 Problem Solving; If you start collecting and analyzing data without first clarifying the question you are trying to answer, you’re probably doing yourself more harm than good. You’ll end up drowning in a flood of information and realize only later that most of that research was a waste of time.

To avoid this problem, you should develop a problem solving design plan before you start chasing after information. In the design plan, you clarify the issues you are trying to solve, state your current hypotheses and rationale, and list the analyses; actions; and information required to prove or disprove those hypotheses. Developing this plan before your start researching will drastically increase your problem solving productivity.

Issue	Hypothesis	Rationale	Analysis / Activites	Information Source
How I know the best school for my son?	Because Oru love a to calculate and earn money, he have to study in Harvard Business Scholl whe he grow up.	Oru loves numbers.	Test Oru to study more in economic, mathematics and also finance.	Interview

You can download the template from here: https://goo.gl/RXJZKL

The New Man

Today my college said this words and make me realize the point from his words.

You will move on until you found a new one.

When you had a bad things happened in your love life, make you can’t accepting reality that your close one just gone and now you are alone.

Regarding from the article who taken from MSU’s Jed Magen, associate professor of psychiatry, wrote this piece for The Conversation, an independent collaboration between editors and academics that provides informed news analysis and commentary to the general public, has been said that loneliness is bad for your health.

Lonely people are stressed much of the time. Another hormone named oxytocin seems to play a role in social isolation. In popular media, oxytocin is often referred to as the “love hormone.” This is an overstatement, but oxytocin is involved in relationships and pair bonding. For example, after birth, high oxytocin levels are associated with better mother-infant bonding.

Oxytocin also seems to be linked to reduced stress. For instance, it’s associated with decreases in levels of norepinephrine, the “fight or flight” hormone, as well as decreases in blood pressure and heart rate, much the opposite of chronic cortisol. Oxytocin also seems to decrease activity in the amygdala, a part of the brain that activates whenever there’s a perceived threat.

From that point before I wrote about my thought about moving forward and have a new dream for my future, I am kind of loneliness. Sad. Miserable. Hate. Always blame of myself. Feel guilty. Useless. and another negative feeling around inside my head. Yeah I know that being a single mom is not easy for me, all I am thinking just negative and negative and negative feeling inside on me. Tired and then got sick easily. But until two week back end before I started this blog I realize that I am not alone and everyone loving me.

I still have a friends. A lot of friends. A thousands of friends. They always supporting me even I was doing a bad things in my life, once. They always cheering me when I am down and kind of have difficulty in hard time. And yesterday, my friend also remind me that I am not alone and I already have my new man.

Yes! I already have my new man. He is my precious one! My son!

When I was still a single and before married, I wondered what is a true love shape is. Until I got him and realize that a true love is everywhere! They are everywhere and already in front of your eyes. Love is not coming only from your lover, love coming around your life and they are visible too.

My new man maybe can’t be equated same as my ex husband, but thanks because of my son now I kind of forget being lonely and my life full of love now. Maybe for a while I am not ready to have a new one, because I still worry about my self not enough for another man. But, you know because of my son I feel complete.

Teach self-denial and make its practice pleasure and you can create for the world a destiny more sublime that ever issued from the brain of the wildest dreamer – Sir Walter Scott.

I kind of denial of the true life is, where I need a new man, new love life and somebody will be your friend until you old and die, but now I pretend that I don’t need one. Regarding to this matter be honest I am so scared to death! Seems that quote who been taken from forbes created by Sir Walter Scott remind me that is ok being denial for this situations, you are not doing something wrong.

Just because you don’t need a real man for now is doesn’t means that you losing your hope of love. Maybe Allah now just give a good trial for your life in the future. Don’t be scared again, Allah always being kind because he just give you a time to have a time more closely to your son. He need you now rather than your new lovelife.

Now you can spends your time to hang out with him for more. Is about a time. Time you will get recovered and time you move on with the new one. Just remind to yourself that, don’t loosing your hope.

Maybe before my ex husband gone and have a new lovelife with his mistress while I got pregnant of Oru, I had pray that he comeback when Oru born and we be a family again. Yes for the record he been back, but he back because he need my money and I am being fooled again by him and another broken heart coming into my life once again. Hurts. But life must go on. I deserve to have happy, Oru too. So what should I do? Just keep moving forward and doing something big for myself and people who love me. Oru will have study in Harvard Business School when he grow up, so I should working more hard to earn money for him, no need to think about my ex husband (we don’t need him!) or new man (for now).

Things may come to those who wait, but only the things left by those who hustle – Abraham Lincoln.

Happy Birthday My Son

Happy 1st birthday my son, Oru!

Since you tourning a year now, wish that you can be a good man and success in your amazing life! I always love you son!

Single Mom Traveling with Baby : Bali

If you are single Mom, don’t be afraid to traveling with your babies. Plus, don’t be worry about your financial problem, your earnings already set up by God!

Why I said this problem, because God never gives a trial of difficulty beyond the ability of his people. For me, I keep this words, and finally could flew me away to enjoying vacation with my baby to Bali a year ago.

I came to Bali where the best marathon in Indonesia –  Maybank Bali Marathon 2017 was been held. At that time Oru just 4 months and he is so tiny for his first journey use plane. For this mater I discuss with his doctor first before we going to Bali and here a tips for you a single Mom who have a plan to travel with your babies:

1. Consultation with a doctor

If you have a first time for your babies traveling with airplane, don’t forget to meet your doctor first. Get consultation first about your babies health and conditions, is it he well flew or not.

The doctor will suggest minimum age traveling with babies around 3 months, less than that it might be need approval from the doctor and also the airlines company you traveling with.

2. Wear ear protector to cover up your babies ears and also a lot of milk near him

If you really want to plan traveling with babies, make sure a lot of researching to see the details where airlines allowing infant age. For some airlines they just allowing three months old to enjoying flying with them.

When I go to Bali, we used Airasia who had night flight. Because we have night flight it easy for Oru enjoying his first trip in the air with his ear protection and also a lot of milk, the baby sleep well and also not fussy.

Why this is important to wearing ear protection and give baby a lot of milk, because they don’t know how to adjust with air in the altitude, if you not prepare for this they might be fussy and cry a lot because hurt on they ears.

For ears protection, may I suggest that better you buy the used and with a good condition one, rather than buy the new one. Because if you not traveling a lot it could be wasted, your babies will grow up and when they attain the age of 7 moths they really heated to wearing ear protection, because can’t drink milk well when you breastfeed him.

3. Bring a light cloths for you, but well prepare for your babies

If you know where you want to go, please make sure to fit in.

If you traveling to Bali, of course you know the heat there so you might be comfortable if wearing a light cloths. Because I wearing hijab, I prefer to wearing a dress and light hijab.

Bring boyfriend jeans to make your move easy, because if you wearing a tight jeans make your walk not comfortable, but boyfriend have good air circulation. Because you carry your baby almost on your trip this jeans would make you easy to move.

Please forget about over to much bring a cloths for you, come on honey this is your moment with your baby not a moment you looking a new guy. aahaha…

For a babies, if you stay for 4 days bring 8 cloths. Double up carrier for babies is a must, even he wearing a diapers, but the heat make them sweat easily. I suggest bring up a lot of jumper for a day and jumper for a sleep, it might your suitcase easy to breath and the rest on it you can full it with a souvenir from Bali. Yeay…!

4. Don’t bring your stroller, but use baby carrier for easy move

Do you plan traveling with stroller? Sorry honey that’s useless. Because a lot of street in Bali not familiar with stoller and the heat in the beach area could make your babies not comfortable.

Just bring your lovely baby carrier, carry him around you and when he get overheating comfort him with some fan or stop at a restaurant or shop for shelter.

5. Booking your hotel online and near airport

Lesson number one traveling with baby: you must well prepare for your travel list. Research a good hotel and also nearby airport make you easily when landed and back to your hometown.

Because traveling with a babies could make a lot of difficulty, don’t make it ruin your flight time because you woke up late or got traffic jam.

Try to booked your hotel by Agoda or Booking.com this site really trusted for your traveling plan. But if you doubt for the fancy marketing photo you can use Google or Tripadvisor to see the real review about your hotel.

Please choose a better hotel, not budgeting one but something with minimum 3 stars on it, because the hotel have to make your babies comfortable while in Bali.

6. Make a travel list, where area you want to travel with, but don’t go to extreme activity ya, because you bring your babies and not traveling with friends

If you go to Bali, first things to do traveling to Kuta Beach, but don’t takes to long because your babies need a cool things after their journey in the beach.

After that bring him to Garuda Wisnu Kencana (GWK). In here, they might be see a entertainment from Balinese Dancer, and they really happy when saw they performance.

If you don’t like a hot weather in Bali, just go to north (Ubud) where the heat more coolest and your babies will comfortable with. But it might be a little bit costly because on those area especially for rich people to come.

For buying a souvenir, just have a shopping at night at Krisna. Maybe this is would be a little expensive, but if you shop at a street market, your babies will be overheat and I don’t like it.

7. Don’t traveling alone, just ask your mom to accompany with

I know you might be hated when I suggesting this things. But to be honest traveling with your Mom is the best to get closer with.

Because you been busy at work and entrust the child to your Mother, your vacation means that her vacation too. She deserve to have fun with. If not you, who else will make her happy?

Always Be Grateful

A couple days, I had bad feeling because my health not going well. Got sick in my stomach made me couldn’t had eat well, but beside I had sick my breast milk running well as usually.

That’s simple things make me realize that, behind the difficulties in your life, God always gives something good to you. For me, I can feed Oru with good breast milk like a wonderful things in my life. Alhamdulillah, beside my busy day at office my breast milk running well until now, because many moms can not give breast milk to their babies, be grateful.

My Mom ask me, why you stop dancing and learn Japanese language? What I answered to my Mom?

“Mom, I had Monday to Friday busy in office, I just meet my son only couple of hours. But on my Saturday and Sunday, is it wrong i spend time with my son?”

I don’t know why my Mom ask this, but I know she not meaning something. Mom…I am sorry, I have not thought of myself, now I think more about Oru and his future.

Raising a child by myself it not easy. Even that I already mature woman, but sometime you feel lonely and need someone to lay on, is it real, when the things come, I only can cry and wondering can I have a happy life like normal people, were they can have a good future for their child and not struggle with their life? Wondering, and always wonder…I remember some words, Alhamdulillah…if you feel grateful your life will be better and better. For me it’s worth!

Because I feeling so grateful, my pain and loneliness just gone, all I feel is a sense of gratitude that is infinite because God has given life so perfect in my life, without the need for my sake.

Start Your Impossible!

A couple week I just got this amazing advertising from Toyota. Within a hashtag #StartYourImpossible make me realize. The global corporate initiative aims to inspire Toyota employees, partners, and customers and connect them with the company’s core beliefs. In an age of accelerating technological and environmental developments, “Start Your Impossible” marks Toyota’s commitment to support the creation of a more inclusive and sustainable society in which everyone can challenge their impossible.

Why I am so gloomy? Why I am not start my impossible things happens. Maybe hard, but it would to try and never doubt for the reason.

Move is Human Right! Because when we start to move, anything could be possible!

That’s quote just remind me that anything you afraid about, it always haunted you. Start be positive about who you are, and always believe that you can make it.

My plan for this year is number one are being a good mom for Oru, but beside of that I also have my goals to achieve! I have to reduce my weight like before 45kg. I know it sound be a silly, but like Toyota advertising magic words, “Start Your Impossible”. Still long way to go…!

 

Drink Coffee While Pregnant?

Drink Coffee While Pregnant? It is save!

While I was pregnant of Oru, almost everyday I drink my coffee without any absence. The good things drink my coffee every morning is make my mood when pregnant became a awesome, but a later on I got my preeclampsia.

A study from The New Journal of Medicine found the fact that miscarriages can happen because of too much coffee. It was found in 562 pregnant women who became survey participants. Caffeine content in coffee is also suspected as a cause of miscarriage.

The reason, this study shows that women who are pregnant have a higher risk of miscarriage when drinking more than 8 cups of coffee per day. This applies to coffee commonly purchased at supermarkets or in cafes in general.

Why is drinking coffee when pregnant is very dangerous? Coffee with caffeine can enter and penetrate the baby’s placenta. In normal people alone, caffeine can speed up the heartbeat and this also has the same effect on the fetal heart. Then, what is the ideal size or dose of coffee during pregnancy?

When pregnant, there are some foods and drinks that should be limited intake. All foods and beverages that contain caffeine, tea, chocolate, soft drinks, energy drinks are beverages whose limits must be considered in pregnant women. Check and read the packaging information instructions carefully before pregnant women consume them.

Babycenter recommends a maximum of 200 mg of caffeine if you want to drink coffee while pregnant. This is equivalent to two cups of instant coffee for a day.

It can also be tailored to the packaging instructions on the food and beverage you will eat. Here’s an example of the instructions:

• 80 mg of caffeine is equivalent to a come from energy drink.
• 140 mg of caffeine is equivalent to a cup of filtered coffee.
• 60-80 mg of caffeine equals a cup of instant coffee.
• 40 mg of caffeine is contained in a bottle of soda.
• 10-50 mg of caffeine is found in a cup of tea.
• 50g chocolate usually contains 25-50 mg of caffeine.

Drinking coffee during pregnancy is not prohibited, but note the intake of caffeine into the body. For that, consider the content of caffeine in tea, coffee, chocolate and other foods listed on the packaging.

Do not let caffeine consumption exceed the tolerance limit for pregnant women. If you are accustomed to consuming more than two cups of coffee per day before pregnancy, you can switch to other types of drinks that certainly do not contain the risk of caffeine and healthier for both you and the fetus. It is recommended to reduce coffee intake during pregnancy. Expand drinking water and other nutritious foods to maintain the health of mother and fetus.

From that tips, I am kind of regret because while I pregnant can’t stop drinking coffee. But actually my preeclampsia not coming from coffee or caffeine, but because I have a lot of fat inside my body.

I had preeclampsia my body gain weight while pregnant around 30kg. Is because my body contain baby and so much water. Not comfortable, that’s why I recovery and had a good mood with my coffee. My coffee while pregnant and preeclampsia actually not solve the problem, because I can’t walk and also wearing shoes, almost everyday I wearing my slippers go to office (can you imagine, I had meeting with board of director wearing my slippers).

And when I be in labor, my blood pressure 170/110 and completely with low red blood. My doctor who have super relax mood always encourage me to solve this problem, “Is ok Una everything will be alright”. That’s advice not always make me relax, but helpful a lot, thanks my best obgyn doctor dr FX A. Bhimantoro SpOg. Thanks because always make me believe that my pregnancy is blessed and bring a lot of miracle in my life. Alhamdulillah.

Btw, back to coffee. My suggestion while you are pregnant and ugly mood, please don’t ever think that drink coffee would change your mood be a good one. No! I am not suggest you drink a coffee while pregnant. Please take care of your caffeine inside your body while you are pregnant. Because, caffeine can’t bring a good things in your body and baby while pregnant, this chemical only make you happy sometime and than have trouble later on.

Come on, you don’t believe it? Honey, you know walking, sleeping, sitting with supper heavy, fluffy body and of course gaining a lot of weight is not comfortable, please avoid to drink a coffee, unless you want to have swell body. But again, everything is back to you. Take it or leave it.

How To Be Happy, While Pregnant and Alone?

How To Be Happy, While Pregnant and Alone?

From my experience, being single while pregnant is super difficult, why yeah as you know you have your body change from size 4 to size 14 not super comfortable.

Beside of that size, you also have struggled to move. If you have someone to accompany you such as your husband, it would be super happy ya, but in my case lucky I have a lot of friends who caring and supporting me.

While I am pregnant of Oru, I have to finishing my Master in International Business. Is not an easy, because in the morning until late afternoon you have done your work at office than later on you still have to go to University until night. Lucky that my campus from office not so far, just walk little bit than arrived and study.

At that time if I have to flashback my feeling, I am totally heart broken, almost can’t stop crying go to office with your motorcycle and once a time some bad person want to steal your bag, while your useless and stupid husband have a wonderful time with his lover and never thinking about you and his baby.

I know that it’s might be look so stupid, why I have to struggle by myself but your husband can’t take care of you. But as you know, I am blessed and always ask God to take care of me and my baby. Six months and I can pass the hard things in my life (including drama at work, internship and thesis).

Alhamdulillah…

Because I always remember that I have my Mom, Dad, Brother and also friends who take care of me, I never even thought my pregnancy was so heavy. I am feel grateful and blessed, than I can passed it and get more happy when Oru arrived into this world.

If you have same condition like me, honey don’t be sad. Look from the big picture, you are not alone! You have to be survive cause your baby need you. You have to be strong and not thinking about something who make you hurt the most. Just thinking about you! you! you! you! Because if you start to think to make your self happy first, your aura and feeling will get aboard to other people’s (especially your baby).

Eat a lot and follow the doctor advice about your pregnancy. Fuck off if you want to avoid to have USG test because you wanna get surprise their gender. Come on, you don’t need to become so selfish like that, when I said just thinking about you! first, is not kind of being selfish and arrogant for your infant development, you need USG test every month to have close with them. If you know that they grow so strong inside your belly, it can be a big driven to you to love a life more.

Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage – Lao Tzu.

But this is my feeling to be a mom.

Relationship Mom and her daughter / son is kind of true love. True love that you let your body change because you wanna keep your baby warm and also develop well. True love when you hear her / his first cry on this world make you cry a lot and suddenly want to protect and make  she / him happy forever.